Infatuation and Love
~ by The Islander Pete


  • The dangers of infatuation and the happy discovery of love
  • Knowing the difference can save your heart
  • If you want a lasting relationship, don’t mistake infatuation for love


Infatuation and love are two different things. Infatuation is often mistaken for love. It is that intense, passionate feeling we have for someone that can border on obsession.

Infatuation is when you have a strong attraction to someone and you feel like you’re in love, but it’s usually not based on anything else other than physical attraction. We become preoccupied with the person and how they make us feel.

Infatuation is based on physical attraction and fantasy rather than reality. The object of our infatuation can be anyone – a crush, a celebrity, or even someone we just met.

Love, on the other hand, is usually based on more than just physical attraction. It is built on a foundation of trust and respect. You may be in love with someone because of their personality or how they make you feel.

Love takes time to develop and grows stronger over time.

Defining love and infatuation

Love and infatuation are two different things but both are intense emotions and are often confused. Love is a deep feeling of affection – a deeper, more lasting emotion, while infatuation is more of a crush or intense liking for someone.

Love is usually based on trust, mutual respect, and commitment, while infatuation is an idealization of someone, is often just physical attraction (looks) and maybe even lust (sexual chemistry) and can be fickle and short-lived. Infatuation usually leads to unrealistic expectations and disappointment.

So how do you know if you’re in love or just infatuated?

If you find yourself constantly thinking about the other person, wanting to be around them all the time, and making sacrifices for them, it’s probably love. Love takes time to grow, while infatuation may happen quickly. Over time, love will continue to grow stronger while infatuation can fizzle out in a short time. Love is also usually more stable and lasts longer than infatuation.

If you’re not sure, it’s always best to take some time to get to know the person better before jumping into anything too serious.

Infatuation is often blind and you may not notice any of the other person’s faults. Love also makes you think about what you value most and appreciate in the other person, and then deciding to accept the good and the flaws. When you love someone, it’s also natural to want them to be happy. You might even go out of your way to help them achieve those goals.

Love is more about giving and sacrifice, while infatuation is often about getting what you want.

The dangers of confusing love with infatuation

It is noted that though infatuation and love may feel the same, they are two different things and can often be confused.

The danger of confusing love with infatuation is that people set themselves up for disappointment, and can often get their heart broken when the infatuation fades away. They may think they are in love when they are really only in lust or infatuated with the other person.

Infatuation is not built to last because it’s not based on anything real. Once the initial excitement wears off, you are left with nothing.

It’s important to take the time to get to know someone before you declare your love for them. Also, it is best not to declare your love for someone unless you are sure it will be returned.

How to know if you’re in love or infatuated

When it comes to love, it can be difficult to know the difference between infatuation and the real thing especially if it’s your first time experiencing such strong feelings.

Both love and infatuation are intense emotions that can make you feel like you’re on top of the world. Infatuation is often characterized by feelings of excitement and anxiousness, while love is more stable and calming. If you’re unsure whether you’re in love or just infatuated, there are a few key things to look for.

One way to tell the difference is by thinking about how long you’ve been feeling these intense emotions. If it’s only been a few weeks or months, chances are you’re simply infatuated. Love, on the other hand, often develops over time.

You may want to consider how you feel when you’re around this person. If you’re infatuated, you may feel great when you’re together but feel really bad when you’re apart. But if you’re in love, your mood will be much more consistent. You’ll feel good when you’re together and when you’re apart.

Another way to tell if you’re in love or just infatuated is by considering your level of commitment. If you’re in love, you’ll actually be willing to make sacrifices for the other person. Infatuation may make you feel like the other person is perfect for you, but love makes you want to work at things and be the best partner you can be.

Again, we said that infatuation is all about how you feel, but love is about how the other person feels. You want what’s best for the other person. If your infatuation is strong, however, it may not last long enough to warrant a real commitment.

Once you’ve proven that you’re ready to commit and work hard to be a good partner, then you can feel confident that your feelings are real love and not infatuation. You’ll be more able to determine whether your infatuation is real love or just a passing phase.

The benefits of being in a healthy ‘real love’ relationship

Though being in love may sometimes seem like a whirlwind of emotion, there are actually many benefits to being in love.

For one, being in love has been linked with improved mental and physical health. In fact, studies have shown that people who are in love have lower levels of stress and anxiety, and higher levels of immunity. They also tend to live longer with less heart problems and even lower rates of arthritis and depression.

But it’s not just the physical benefits that make being in love so great – it’s also the mental benefits. People who are in love tend to be more optimistic, outgoing, and creative. They feel good about themselves. They feel loved, supported, and appreciated. They know that someone is there for them, and can count on them. They also have increased self-esteem and feel more confident overall – and that helps growth and learning as a person.

And, of course, being in love is simply a lot of fun! You can explore new things together, try new activities, and learn more about each other and what you want in life together.

Conclusion: Love is worth the risk

When it comes to love, is it worth taking the risk? It can be scary to put yourself out there, especially if you’ve been hurt before. But sometimes, the rewards are worth it. Love can give you a sense of security, happiness, and companionship that nothing else can provide.

Sure, there’s always the possibility that things won’t work out. But if you never take the chance, you’ll never know what could have been. So go ahead and take that leap of faith. It just might be the best decision you ever make.

There is a time for everything. I like to believe that a time will come for you.

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Coming Up Next: The 4 Types Of Infatuation

  • Limerence
  • Hero worship
  • Sexual obsession
  • Dependency

from Wikipedia – The Free Encyclopedia:
Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic or non-romantic feelings for another person, and typically includes intrusive, melancholic thoughts and/or tragic concerns for the object of one’s affection as well as a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and to have one’s feelings reciprocated. Limerence can also be defined as an involuntary state of intense desire

Psychologist Dorothy Tennov coined the term ‘limerence‘ for her 1979 book, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love.